I’ve recently been investing my time in searching for Bible verses that instruct how to be a virtuous wife. This is because I will be marrying my fiancé, Zack Groff, on the 15th of this coming May and I want to be prepared for the attitude, mindset, and customs I’ll need to adopt within the following weeks (and keep improving upon and adding to essentially my whole life!) I know it is not too early to take on some aspects of that role now, so I can be improving upon and mastering them as the wedding date draws nearer. I have yet to explore in depth the instructions on how to be a virtuous wife found in the Old Testament, so I will mediate only on those I’ve found in the New Testament for now.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands….let the wife see that she respects her husband (Eph 5:22-24, 33b).
…love their husband and children to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not reviled (Titus 1:4-5).
Let the marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous (Hebrews 13:4).
Servants, be subject to your masters with all respect, not only to the good and gentle but also to the unjust….[For] when Christ was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him to judges justly.…Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives – when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external…but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God to adorn themselves, by submitting to their husbands (1 Peter 3:5).
A virtuous wife submits (4) to their husband and is subject to him. She is loving and respectful (2). She is self-controlled and kind. She is pure (2) and keeps the marriage bed undefiled. She holds the marriage in honor among all, but keeps her spirit gentle and quiet. The most repeated command is submit, and the second most are respect and be pure. In this way a wife is honorable both to her husband and God. For this she will be loved by her husband and seen precious in the sight of God.